Lets put it out there and reemphasize: chivalry’s dead. And I’m not saying it in a bad way or anything, like its something we should mourn over, because I think it’s only expected. I see it as part of the evolution. Almost science…-cy.

The burden for men to be a gentleman have been lifted little by little, partly by the fact that more women are repeating the girl power slogan: We (women) can do it too! But how egalitarian do we want the world to be? Because ermm.. I personally find it preeehhtaaayy sweet for a man to make an effort to walk ahead to open the door for me. But at the same time, I don’t want them to be carrying my bags/always paying for my meals/insisting on driving me around. The thing is, we women have not really come together and decide what is okay for a man to do for a woman, and what is considered demeaning when a man insists on something too strongly. But I’m not afraid to say that we women don’t find it surprising anymore when you men don’t offer your jacket when its cold out, because seriously, we know that men do not have higher tolerance towards bad weather… plus we women should know better to bring our own stylish jackets when going out. So its fine, keep your jackets, chivalry is not worth catching a cold for and we get that.

However, when I see a woman doing a man’s job (yes, questionable, but lets keep the definition loose for now) in the presence of other men who aren’t doing anything, it makes me think: Is that a 21st century lady or are those men the 21st century gentleman? Are we women more empowered or are the men taking advantage of our need to take up more roles in life that they decide to…. slack? Could it be that chivalry is not truly dead, only repressed by the feminine voices for more power, and they take it that we should be switching roles?

When I say keep your jackets, that doesn’t mean that I should be giving you mine when you forget yours on a cold night. When I say chivalry is dead due to girl power slogans, it doesn’t mean that we women are taking over the chivalrous roles. When I say “I can do it too”, I really meant ‘together’. Just because we want to do everything you do, doesn’t mean you don’t have to do anything. I think we’ve let you boys slacked in trying to please us by being our own woman in life, so all I’m saying is, lets not push it too far?  Let chivalry be dead, don’t go laying your jacket on the puddle for us to walk over, because all we want is for both of us to be dry without the expense of anyone’s jackets.